Pros and Cons of a Sweetheart Table

If you’re engaged, you know that the decision making process is endless. From all the weddings we’ve done, we’ve found that one of the bigger sources of these decisions revolves around one thing: table arrangements.  For guest tables, there are literally endless options that are completely dependent on your venue, your catering, and your preference.  But for you and your groom, the decision is much simpler.  Most brides find themselves choosing between two popular options: a head table vs. a sweetheart table.  With sweetheart tables increasing in popularity, we’ve decided to break it down for you and help you decide whether or not it’s right for you!

Pro: It allows you time together. 

The day of your wedding can be such a whirl that many newlyweds find themselves at the end of their day having barely spent one-on-one time together.  Having a separate sweetheart table for dinner allows for that special time that you may not get otherwise.  Especially for those not doing a first look, it’s important to make some sort of time to be with each other during your day, and dinner is the perfect opportunity!

Con:  Interruptions are inevitable.

Often times, sweetheart tables are placed away from the head table, such as behind it or off to the side.  While this does separate the two of you from the rest of your guests for a brief time, having that separation will also cause for more interruptions.  Whether it’s Aunt Susie wanting a picture or random guests wandering over to talk, there’s a chance that your dinner may be short lived.  If you’re dead set on doing a sweetheart table, consider placing the table near the head table or even surrounded by tables of family/wedding party.  This way you and your groom are nearby, yet also guarded by the wedding party from interrupting guests. 

Pro: It gives you a chance to breathe.

Your wedding day is one of the most special days of your life, but it will also go by in a blink!  Having a moment away from even your bridesmaids allows you to take in all of the moments throughout the day and actually process that you’ve just gotten married!  Some couples even choose to go away from the reception room to eat dinner – completely isolated from everyone.  This takes the sweetheart table idea to another level, but may be the very thing you need before mingling and dancing!

Con: It separates you from your friends/family. 

Many brides are turned away from the idea of a sweetheart table, being that they would rather spend dinner beside their tribe of bridesmaids or close family.  The separation that a sweetheart creates may also feel odd during toasts with the Maid of Honor/Best Man away from the two of you.  For brides that don’t like having all of the attention on them, this may not be the best option, as that singular table will be the focal point of the entire reception.    

Whatever table arrangement you decide on, there’s always a way to make it work for what you want!  Decide what’s most important to you, and factor in all aspects of your day.  There’s certainly more ways to find time together than having a two-seater table for dinner!  Consider doing a first look, or perhaps taking a post-ceremony break before dinner.  In the end, you want your wedding day to be a joyful memory – so make it happen the way you envision!

Happy planning,